I’m sorry that this post is late, but midterms have kept me very busy. Here’s a brief update about my private lessons: I’ll be testing out of Bronze II on the 30th of this month. It’s been a while since my last test, so I’m kind of nervous. Tango worries me most. I definitely need to ask Tommy to go over the two figures for it (again).
I feel kind of silly writing this, but I really think dancing is helping me learn how to flirt. There, I said it. I think flirting is like any skill. Some people are naturally talented, and others, not so much. I fall into the second category. I can be quite shy when it comes to talking to a guy that’s caught my eye. It’s almost painful. I know the source of the pain comes from the fear of being vulnerable. “What if he doesn’t reciprocate?” I ask. Yeah, taking risks is where the most magic happens and all that jazz, but I’ve actually really struggled with this. However, I see a good portion of interacting with your dance partner as acting. Practicing being flirty while dancing helps get rid of the nervousness because of that perspective. I’m hoping that if I can nail this in dance, I can apply it off the floor. Of course, most of my practice comes from my Rhythm dances. Here are some examples of things I’m learning:
- breaking the touch barrier (Ballroom involves a lot of physical contact.)
- using appropriate facial expressions in the right situation
- inviting body language
- holding yourself upright, which can express confidence
- Smiling (I actually don’t smile too much as I want to when I dance because I’m concentrating. Tommy calls me out about this often.)
- using suggestive gestures, like running my hand across my neck and showing it off
So, have any of y’all got any tips for bringing out my? I may be what my mother and I jokingly call a “manly woman”, but I still desire a relationship. Sometimes I really wonder what it would be like to hold a guy’s hand or, perhaps to snuggle with him… In the meantime, my dance journey will continue. It’s surprising how much it parallels with my life.